Ephesians 5:21-6:9 Discussion Questions


The following are simply prompts for study, prayer and conversation. There is no designed order to follow. It will not be graded. They are simply caves to be explored on the journey of life and faith. They do assume that you have a Bible present and open.


  1. In an aside from his command to husbands in Ephesians 5, Paul draws from Old Testament marriage language to celebrate the beauty of Christ as the Savior and sanctifier of the church (5:22-23).
    1. In the Old Testament, the prophets refer to the marriage between God and His people (cf. Jeremiah 54:4). Additionally they speak of two forms of marital unfaithfulness that God’s people commit against Him: namely, adultery and prostitution (Jer. 3:1-6; Hosea 4:12; 5:4). What might each of these forms of spiritual unfaithfulness look like in our church(es) today? To whom do we solicit our minds and hearts when we turn from Christ in these ways?
    2. In light of our waywardness, what is Christ’s response (Ezekiel 36:25-27’; Hosea 14:4-7; Eph. 5:25-27)?
  2. “Parents, teach your children the things of God” is a refrain the echoes throughout the entire Bible. While this refrain is only in one verse in Ephesians (i.e., 6:1), there are many other passages that explain what this might look like in more detail. Deuteronomy 4 is one of those passages. Read Deut. 4:5-10 as a group, making not of the commands within these verses. Discuss ways in which you have or could teach your child(ren) the things of God.


  1. Ephesians 6:1-8 addresses the attitudes of bondservants as they work. Three times in the passage, Paul uses the same word, meaning “slave or servant.” In verse 6, he uses this word one more time when he says, “obey your earthly masters…not by the way of eye-service (ESV).” What does Paul mean if we are to no longer obey as slaves to the eye? How does this attitude reshape your motive for the daily tasks of work? Quality, use of time and resources, etc.?


  1. No matter which of these roles describe you, it is a very worthwhile practice to take time to write your own household code. Start with the Bible, searching it for direction on roles, relationships, and attitudes. Pray for wisdom in the writing process and discipline in the practice. Keep in mind where God has placed you in your family, community, and career. To get you started, answer the question, “How does the Bible direct me/us to remember and exemplify God’s purposes each day.”


  1. Share with your group where you feel convicted to focus this week. As you pray for each other, pray for guidance, patience, wisdom, and discipline on making these changes.